Tips for Lasting Longer in the Bedroom

Let’s talk about something personal. This is something a lot of us think about, but don’t always shout from the rooftops, which is lasting longer in bed.

It’s easy to feel weird about it, like, is something wrong with me because I finish fast? Or maybe asking your partner to slow down feels awkward.

(It’s like, “Hey, could you maybe… you know… chill for a sec?” Not exactly smooth.)

But seriously, you’re not alone. Wanting to enjoy sex for longer is totally normal, and there’s zero shame in it.

This isn’t about some magic trick but feeling good and owning your pleasure. So, let’s get to some tips that can help.

Riding the Wave (Without Totally Wiping Out)

First, let’s break down what happens when you orgasm. It’s like a wave that’s building and building… Your heart’s pounding, you’re breathing faster, and things are getting intense. Then comes the crash (the orgasm!), which feels amazing, but then… poof. It’s over. The trick is learning to surf that wave, not just get pummeled by it. (Which, let’s be honest, sometimes happens, and that’s okay too.)

Slow Your Roll, Girlfriend

If you have ever gone for a run and sprinted right out the gate, you get tired fast. Sex is kind of the same. Ask your partner to take it slow. Start with gentle touches and kisses. Build the excitement gradually.

And don’t be afraid to switch things up! Some positions are way more intense than others. If things are getting too hot to handle, try a different position. It can help you cool down and get back in control. (It’s like changing gears in a car. Sometimes you need to downshift to keep things smooth.)

Breaks Aren’t Just for School (or Boring Meetings)

Seriously, if you feel that orgasm coming on strong, take a break! Pause the action, focus on something else for a bit. Maybe cuddle, kiss, or even just talk. It helps you relax and reset.

Deep breaths are your BFF here too. It’s like a mini meditation that will help you calm down and stay in the moment. When things are getting heated, breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth.

And for the love of all that’s holy, talk to your partner! Tell them what feels good and what doesn’t, if they need to slow down, or to try something different. Good communication is key to any relationship, especially when it comes to sex.

Getting to Know Yourself (Intimately)

Masturbation is like your own personal sex lab. It’s the perfect way to learn what turns you on and what helps you last longer. Try different things and see what works. Then you can give your partner the inside scoop!

If you have ever heard of the G-spot, it’s a spot inside the vagina that can feel amazing for some women. G-spot orgasms can be really intense, but they also tend to build more slowly, which can help you last longer.

And don’t forget about Kegels! These exercises strengthen your pelvic floor muscles (the ones you use to stop peeing mid-stream). Stronger muscles = more control during sex, which can help you delay that orgasm. (It’s like when you’re trying to hold in a sneeze, but way more fun, obviously.) Just squeeze those muscles, hold for a few seconds, and release. Repeat a few times. The best part is that you can do them anytime, anywhere, such as on the bus or in line at the grocery store, and no one will know!

It’s Not Just Physical, Babe

While all those physical tips are great, don’t forget about your mind and emotions because stress can totally mess with your sex life, especially when you’re already worried about other things. When you’re stressed, it’s harder to relax and enjoy things. So, find healthy ways to de-stress, like exercise, meditation, spending time outdoors, or even just picking up a fun hobby.

Feeling good about your body is huge too. And let’s be real, feeling self-conscious is the worst. It’s hard to let go and enjoy the moment when you’re worried about how you look. Focus on the things you love about yourself, such as your awesome smile, your killer sense of humor, or whatever it is.

And of course, feeling safe and comfortable with your partner is essential. Any issues in your relationship can spill over into the bedroom. Make sure you’re both on the same page and feeling good about your connection.

There’s no “right” way to have sex. What matters is that you’re having fun and feeling good. Don’t be afraid to experiment, try new things, and most importantly, talk to your partner. Sex should be a pleasurable experience for both of you!

While all those physical tips are great, don’t forget about your mind and emotions because stress can totally mess with your sex life, especially when you’re already worried about other things. When you’re stressed, it’s harder to relax and enjoy things. So, find healthy ways to de-stress, like exercise, meditation, spending time outdoors, or even just picking up a fun hobby.

Feeling good about your body is huge too. And let’s be real, feeling self-conscious is the worst. It’s hard to let go and enjoy the moment when you’re worried about how you look. Focus on the things you love about yourself, such as your awesome smile, your killer sense of humor, or whatever it is.

And of course, feeling safe and comfortable with your partner is essential. Any issues in your relationship can spill over into the bedroom. Make sure you’re both on the same page and feeling good about your connection.

There’s no “right” way to have sex. What matters is that you’re having fun and feeling good. Don’t be afraid to experiment, try new things, and most importantly, talk to your partner. Sex should be a pleasurable experience for both of you!