Vibrator vs. Partner?

Vibrator vs. partner… are we in a boxing ring? Well, no! It shouldn’t be that way at all. In fact, the best combo would be incorporating sex toys with a partner! 

You see, sex toys are simply tools that can enhance partnered play. They don’t replace partners, they can work hand-in-hand to create all sorts of sexy dynamics in the bedroom.

Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case. People don’t often feel this way. Sadly, they may feel the opposite. They might feel as though inviting vibrators into the mix can cause sexual insecurity and sexual anxiety. 

How can they ever live up to the satisfaction that sex toys, like couples vibrators, bring about? Let’s look into it!

Sex toys aren’t a replacement, they’re a tool to deepen connections between partners

Before we touch on a few reasons why sex toys don’t replace humans during sexual intimacy, the main thing to know is that a toy could never give others the sensation of being loved or lusted over, or create the feeling of connection and intimacy. 

That reason alone is enough to know that partners are valuable and important when it comes to sex and sexuality.

Some other good reasons why it’s not a question of vibrators vs. partner include: 

1. Human touch

A vibrator can’t touch you, hold you, hug you, kiss you, or listen to you. You can’t tell your vibrator exactly what you want and have it follow you, your rhythm, how your body moves, and your moans grow. But they can inch you closer to climax. 

2. Flirting 

A vibrator can definitely assist in toe-curling orgasms, but it can’t buy you flowers, wink at you from across the bar, or sext you to get you in the mood.

3. Sex toys are your friends

Imagine you want to build something, but you don’t have any fancy tools. So, you do it manually by hand. But then, one day, you get a few amazing tools that make your experience so much better. Sex toys are like those magic tools. They assist you, not replace you.

4. Passionate engagement 

A passionate, mutual sexual adventure cannot be matched. From start to finish, foreplay, main event, and after, there’s a spark of passion or mutual sexual euphoria that’s better when shared. Partners have the ability to turn one another on with their desire, igniting even more arousal. Sex toys just aid in even greater lust.

5. Penises are beautiful 

For men who feel insecure about partners who have sex toys, did you know that you actually have lovely penises? And sure, there are phallic-looking dildos and vibrators, but they do not compare to the real thing. They’re great when the real thing isn’t around though. 

Why are some men insecure about sex toys?

An interesting bit of info: did you know that nearly 19% of women are nervous to bring a sex toy into partnered play because they’re worried it’ll bruise their partner’s ego? 

So what’s the deal? Why are some men insecure about inviting sex toys into partnered play? Well, it could be that they believe they’re not good enough at sex or pleasuring their partner.

And whether they know it or not, a woman often finds it hard to orgasm through penetration alone. 

So are sex toys necessary in the bedroom? Not exactly, but they definitely can come in handy for a bit of clitoral stimulation. 

If only these men knew that toys were their friends, not their enemies.

So how do they get over these sexual fears and sexual insecurity?

Talking about sex toy fears in a relationship

Does your partner have sexual anxiety or insecurity about using sex toys? Here are some tips that could help:

1. Have a relaxed conversation to address any fears. For example, tell them that vibrators can help your connection. Vibrators won’t ever replace them.

2. Suggest slowly bringing a vibrator into the bedroom. Tell them that it can be used on them too, to play with some of their sexy zones. 

3. Switch things up in the bedroom. Maybe you could play with power roles. Ask them if they want to be more dominant and they can have full control over you with your toy. 

4. Reassure your partner throughout play time that what they’re doing is what is making you feel good.

5. No luck? Maybe continue to communicate together—it could even strengthen your relationship. Otherwise, maybe it’s time to find someone more compatible. 

Using couples vibrators

For those who are ready to take a step into couples vibrators… yay you! We want to introduce you to someone sassy.

Meet Viva.

Viva is a dual stimulation vibrator that comes with a remote control for a partner. Using the remote control, you and your partner can go anywhere and play. Yes, correct! You can engage in public play.

So, it’s not just a fun sex toy for those who want to try a couples vibrator, but also one for those who want to experiment with sexy time in public.

With all of this information, aren’t you just a little bit curious to try something new? 

Sex toys are great for sexual pleasure, and there are so many different ways to play! 

So remember: sex toys don’t replace people, they simply enhance intimacy. Together, surely both partners will have a lot of fun and experience all kinds of lovely orgasms.